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Finding ME again

I think it’s probably safe to say all moms go through a phase in their life when they lose their true self. You get married and make it the best marriage you possibly can. Then you begin to have babies. A baby will make most women the most selfless person she could ever be. What a larger population of moms don’t experience is having a child with special needs.  Four years into being a mom I was blessed to become one of those moms. That’s when i started this blog. At the time I was going to conquer the world of allergies and EoE with enthusiasm and show people how to still live. Here we are 5 hears later. I am definitely not that same mom. I am whipped. I struggle a lot of days to just make it through the day. Pushing myself to keep everyone fed, loved and safe. Often repeating “if i can just make it to bedtime tomorrow is a new day.” I was recently talking with someone I had just met and they asked what I like to do for fun. What are my hobbies? I laughed. This person doesn’t know quite everything we have going on with the kids. I said well the kids consume my every waking moment.  There’s 4 of them and that’s a lot to have going on even if we didn’t have issues. So add all their medical needs and special diets in there and that’s my day, my every single day of the year. I got a funny look as i explained i have no hobbies and i don’t really ever do anything for myself. 1. I have no time. 2. Between the medical bills and grocery bills i feel guilty spending anything on myself.

This got me thinking. What am I most unhappy about aside from the kids having issues? I feel like crap. I have zero energy. It’s like they’ve sucked the life out of me. I hate that I haven’t lost the last of the baby weight they gifted me. I have become a secret eater. I sneak things when they’re not looking because i feel bad eating in front of them. Nathan and i eat dinner after they go to bed because we don’t like them sniffing our plates of food they can’t eat. Eating right before bed is definitely not helping the baby weight come off. I need a change.

I tried clean eating for a while, but i would have a bad day and end up having a binge of emotional eating ruining all my efforts. Do other moms of kids with needs binge eat or does the stress do the opposite and they don’t eat for days? I’m not one to have a drink to help unwind and relax. I’m always afraid we’ll have a situation where someone needs to go to the ER the moment i finally do start to sit back and relax with a glass of wine. After some long thinking and debating in my head I came to the conclusion that i was going to get ME back. Fun, loving, energetic, in shape ME! I then began a great debate in my head. A lot of my thoughts were, i don’t have any extra time. How in the world will i possibly cook another meal? How will i find time to exercise? If i take this leap will i let myself down? I had a plate full of reasons why I couldn’t find myself again.

You know what I did? I threw the plate of excuses it in the trash. I picked myself up and I started a 24 day challenge. I started a transformation to become the old me again. You know what, I did it. I completed my challenge and it was easy. I am on my way and not stopping!!! wpid-20150511_082222.jpg

wpid-20150603_073954.jpgI dropped inches and pounds and I’m still going! I feel great. I have energy. I don’t wake up in the morning trying to figure out if I might be able to take a nap. I can keep up with the dishes and laundry. I took all 4 kids to the pool this week multiple times and I wasn’t exhausted.

I’m exercising about 20 minutes a day. Funny thing is I want to! I can see my results and it’s pushing me to keep going. The girls even exercise with me. It’s adorable. it’s second nature to me now to want to eat healthy all day. I prep my meals for the week on Sunday so I’m not tempted to grab something fatty instead. Sure, I’ve wanted a chocolate brownie. Yes, I’ve had a bite of one. I have not binged at all. I even eat breakfast instead of drinking coffee until lunchtime. My emotions are still high, because I constantly have little people begging me for food they can’t have. Little people having food reactions, not wanting to hook up for a feed, upset because they miss tacos and hot dogs. None of that will ever go away. I am however, feeling good about myself and happy. I think in turn that’s helping me cope with everything the kids have going on. I am so worth this! It is helping me be a happier healthier mom. I definitely think that if I can do this anyone can! Any mom dealing with day to day special needs kids needs to take care of herself and I forgot that. These kids need me more than anything.

I’m almost 30 days into this “finding ME again” journey, so far, so good.

Peace, love and Spark.

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June 6, 2015 - Posted by | LIVING

4 Comments »

  1. Great job Kara. Know you can do it – you are the strongest mom I know…. Thoughts and prayers are with you……

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    Comment by Wanda Polomsky | June 7, 2015 | Reply

  2. You’re smoking hot

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    Comment by nathan root | June 10, 2015 | Reply

  3. Wow! This is great!!!! I am exactly in the same spot! I am about to start a 21 day challenge and you are inspiring to me. I only have two kids, but one being a senior and looking at colleges with food allergies and asthma is a task. It has been so easy to let go of myself. You are really amazing. Congratulations and thank you for sharing your journey.

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    Comment by Caroline | August 5, 2015 | Reply

  4. Wow, first time on this site and can’t even imagine the work it takes to get everyone settled. It’s great you are finding some time for yourself. Though, I think you look great in the before picture. Wonder if you can find other ways to feel more at peace. I like mindfulness meditation. Even five minutes a day is shown to help with stress.

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    Comment by Samana | August 11, 2015 | Reply


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